I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to share the thing's I have learned (and am still learning!) over the years. Helping others somehow assuages the pain RAD has brought into our lives.
Signs & Symptoms of
Reactive Attachment Disorder
in Children & Adults
TIPS FOR HELPING YOUR CHILD ATTACH:
- bottle feed the child even if he is no longer a preschooler. Bottle feeding is an intimate act between mother and child. It helps cement the fact that mom will supply my needs into the child's brain and it will help mom bond with a difficult child.
- rock the child, all children need to be rocked. If the child missed out on this as an infant, fulfill that need now.
- pop sweets into your child's mouth as you rock him
- mom must respond to the child's needs, or dad if he is the primary caregiver. If the child needs or wants something he will only get it from mom. If you have an infant, only mom feeds the baby.
- mom is always the one who comforts the child
- keep your child by your side.
- continually reassure your child that he/she is safe
- empathize with your child. Say things like, "If I were a little boy/girl, I would have been very frightened if _______________ would have happened. I wonder if that is how you felt?"
- give lots of hugs, strive for 12 every day
- find one thing to praise your child for every day. Sometimes this can be almost impossible so you might have to say things like, "Good walking!"
- fill a bag with nonperishable snack's and allow your child to eat them whenever he chooses.
- pray daily, hourly and even moment by moment
- TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. If you do not take care of yourself you will burn out and be unable to help anyone. Find a good therapist or mentor who can speak into your life when things seem impossible.
- Find a respite provider whom you trust to care for your child
Your child will need an experienced attachment therapist. When looking for a therapist, be sure the therapist not only understands RAD but has experience working with attachment disorders. A good therapist will always allow the parent to be in the room during therapy sessions with the child. He/she will realize the child has to bond with the parent, not the therapist.
Always honor the threat. If your child threatens you or your family, take them seriously. A child with RAD is often successful when carrying out threats
*I will probably periodically update this page so if you have any tips, advice or resources please let me know. This is by no means an exhaustive list.